[carry the burdens…]
This post has been breeding in me for a few months now. It began as a desperate desire to unload the burden and anxious fear that it was not my burden to unload.
Extroverts and introverts differ in one major characteristic. When extroverts are dealing with something, their path to healing is “talk it out.” For introverts, however, it is to “take it in” (or “think it out”) rather than “talk it out.” So when I was presented with my friend’s burden, I felt crushed by it.
I didn’t expect it. I couldn’t share it. I didn’t know what to do with it.
I felt as if I were entrusted with a huge rock and I couldn’t show it to anyone. Yet it deeply impacted the way I viewed my friends and many other people around me.
To be honest, I still don’t know what to do with it. It’s just there.
Yet, as I was pondering on that issue all the time, I kept thinking of what Paul was writing:
Carry one another’s burdens and in this way you will fulfill the requirements of the law of Christ that is, the law of Christian love. // Galatians 6:2, AMP
It’s hard. I wasn’t prepared for something like that.
Word of advice (or, consider it a plea)… if you have an introverted friend who is there to listen to your troubles and struggles… You can be pretty sure your secrets will remain unknown to others. However, consider giving a sort of heads up to your friend, so that s/he can mentally be prepared.
It drains us if we aren’t ready. Because of the seasonal changes also (I am very affected by gloomy weather of late fall / early winter, bordering on depression), it felt as a hit in solar plexus, that robbed me of air and left me struggling to breathe.
Granted, I do realize that this is how my friend felt before and that was the reason the burden had to be shared.
Through it all, and especially on gray days, I am thankful for Jesus’ encouraging words that instill peace and remind me that He’s got it under control and He’s got me in His arms:
Come to me and I will give you rest—all of you who work so hard beneath a heavy yoke. Wear my yoke—for it fits perfectly—and let me teach you; for I am gentle and humble, and you shall find rest for your souls; for I give you only light burdens. // Matthew 11:28, TLB