[accidental words and forgiveness]

[accidental words and forgiveness]

Scary how easily our words can hurt someone and we might not even know it.

Especially it sucks when you manage to hurt your best friend.

Thankfully, best friends are best because they stick with you even though you might’ve hurt them. They know you and they forgive because they see something more than just a phrase or a look.

This morning was hectic and it just so happened that 3 people have asked me to do something (in completely different areas of work) and besides that my computer wasn’t working (which, considering that my main job is working online or within the HTML code, really sucks). So when my friend came by and asked whether we could help her with covering some boxes with oracal (colored self-adhesive film), my reply was half-joking “If only we’d have time, we’d help…”

I didn’t even think about it, I just said it and dived back into the things I was working on.

A couple of minutes later, I got an IM, “I didn’t expect this from you. Okay, too bad, I will take that into account in the future.”

Uh oh. It was coldly polite and wasn’t like my friend at all. I tried to think what did I do.

“I will help. I just can’t do it at the moment.”

“I never said it needed to be done right then. I got it under control.”

“Sorry… I didn’t mean to sound like I am the busiest person in this office.”

I sat in front of my pouting computer, trying to think how to mend the relationship. Last thing I wanted was to get my friend upset with me especially when so much work needs to be done. And I knew that she wasn’t really mad at me but it just was a inopportune time and the nerves were high-strung.

A few minutes later I came to her as she was busy cutting and measuring the film… “Can I help?”

“No.”

“Please?”

She looked at me. I sheepishly smiled. I could see that she didn’t want to hold the grudge and finally she nodded. “Yeah.”

We grinned at each other and dived into work together. Ah, the freedom of being forgiven!

Later in the night (we stayed at work until 12AM), she was playing with the bells on the hat that I wore (a Picnic attribute) and we chatted about stuff.

“It just was a very bad timing. I wouldn’t get mad at you at any other time for that.”

I looked at her, realizing that I did not even know what exactly I have said that threw her off in the first place… “What did I say?”

“That if you would’ve had time, you’d help, but you’re too busy at the moment.”

We both grinned again because each knew how silly it really was, yet I was reminded again – so often the words we say are, like in a Russian saying, “like a bird – it flies away and you can’t catch it.” No wonder James warned his friends about this danger,

A bit in the mouth of a horse controls the whole horse. A small rudder on a huge ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets a course in the face of the strongest winds. A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it!

It only takes a spark, remember, to set off a forest fire. A careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that. By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell.

James 3:3-6, MSG

Thankfully, my friend did not hold that against me and forgave me.

Okay, it’s 1:36AM and I should go to sleep for it’s gonna be another hectic day of preparations in the morning.


Lord,

I thank You for the day that You gave me. I thank You for blessing me with a job that I love and a team that is almost perfect. I pray for Your protection over us during these days of preparations as well as the Picnic. Most of all, I pray that in desire to just do a good job we would not ruin the relationships in the meantime. I pray for unity. I pray for peace and confidence.

I thank You that I can trust You and know that You will take care of everything…even if something goes terribly wrong. I thank You for the reassurance You provide and friends who are praying for me and the Chamber team.

I also pray for good weather on Saturday… that would be really nice 🙂

In Your name I pray,

Amen.

  • Isn't it wonderful to be forgiven? It's like the weight of the world is removed from your shoulders…how wonderful we have a God we never need to sit in front of the computer and "worry" that he may forgive us, even funnier is that sometimes I even find myself hiding my wrong from Him as if He doesn't know how I've sinned against Him:)

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