[how would you handle the situation?]

Zee Gimon

I am Zee. I call myself the Observer because that's what I find myself doing most of the time - observe life and people around me. My blog is a Pensieve, similar to that of Dumbledore, used to keep the thoughts and random ideas that visit my brain.

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  • dhawkins

    You're in a tough place. I couldn't possibly tell you what you should do, except to say you have good reason to be frustrated.
    In my experience, it seems like people who micro-manage you and don't trust you to do your job are the people who are a little, shall we say "under-qualified". This doesn't excuse them, but I have found that it really helps me in dealing with them to keep in mind that they are probably just trying to compensate for feelings of inadequacy. That keeps me from pulling my hair out, and allows me to deal with them in a different way then I do others.
    Don’t know if that helps, at least your boss sounds like a reasonable person, I’m sure that makes it easier.
    I wish everyone just worked as you said, trying to make their business the best it can be.

  • zenichka

    thanks for understanding, bro (and patience to read all that venting! πŸ˜€ ).

    i guess the thing that frustrates me the most – i have no idea when to expect these mood swings. for example, today she was really cordial with me like nothing has happened. all i want is just for us to work well together and be able to share a laugh without me sort of expecting a rebuke the next second… *shrug*

    my management really is amazing. they are like those managers you hear in the classroom when the teacher says, "well, in the perfect world…." seriously. sure they have their weaknesses, but i couldn't wish for anything better. i don't think it gets better in this world πŸ™‚

  • Zee: first I think you handled it first as a mature person should and second as a Christian should. You listened. Answered with a quiet but firm voice. And you must continue doing your job as you see fit-the best way it is to be done. Let her rant. She becomes the fool.

  • zenichka

    Bill: well yeah… but i don't want her to become the fool… i wanna help her see that i am not against her…

  • Zee: I reckon I ought to explain because I know it sounded harsh. She is not a fool in that she is a jerk. She is not a fool in that you are in an adversarial relationship. She becomes the fool because she digs herself into a hole and others see her digging. You continue responding as Christ would. People will roll their eyes, etc. You can't stop that. What you can stop is a a nega

  • (sorry box cut off) negative reaction on your part. Maybe if you set the tone (which you are trying to do) the others will follow suit. But you can only do so much. Some of this is in her ball court. Maybe one of these days she will get it.

  • zenichka

    Bill: you're right. i really really hope that it's gonna work out.

    thanks for sharing the wisdom… seriously.

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