[leaders’ bootcamp: epic fail… or not? part 2]

[leaders’ bootcamp: epic fail… or not? part 2]

Yesterday I shared about the experience in the woods. The post today will talk about the lessons learned from that experience. The post yesterday was long, but I still encourage you to read it so you would understand what I am talking about.


Yep, this is one of the few phrases of my Bible teacher that I agree with. Assuming most of the time leads to disasters – big or small, doesn’t really matter – disaster is a disaster.

Both the gal in front of me and I assumed that the bonfire on the hill was where we were supposed to come after the trip. Like moths, we were drawn to that fire… and got burned.

Thankfully, in our case, no one got hurt, but I can think of thousand things that could’ve gone wrong taking into account that we got lost and stumbled upon a wrong company.


When the Pharisees heard how he had bested the Sadducees, they gathered their forces for an assault. One of their religion scholars spoke for them, posing a question they hoped would show him up: “Teacher, which command in God’s Law is the most important?”

Jesus said, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence.’ This is the most important, the first on any list. But there is a second to set alongside it: ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ These two commands are pegs; everything in God’s Law and the Prophets hangs from them.”

Matthew 22:36-40, the Message

Some of you are thinking, “Duh!” and maybe some of you are thinking “Why the heck would I follow some rules?”

Often in life we think we got the situation under control, we think we know what we are doing, and rules seem redundant. Another extreme would be trying to follow all the rules forgetting to enjoy whatever we’re doing, whether it is our work, our family life, our ministry.

We need to find a balance here because this issue becomes a pendulum moment for a lot of us. Some rules are indeed redundant because they were made by men, but there are rules and commandments given by God and those were given for our good.


Jesus spoke to the people once more and said, “I am the light of the world. If you follow me, you won’t have to walk in darkness, because you will have the light that leads to life.”

John 8:12, NLT

Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me.

John 14:6, NLT

I had to laugh when most of the people in our group started saying that the people who were in front got lost. After I realized they were not joking, I told a gal who stood next to me:

“We are the ones who are lost! They’ve got a coach who knows the way and they have a lamp!”

Whenever we are not sure what the others are doing, we assume (yeah, here it is again) that they got lost. Sometimes it is true, sometimes it is not. It was especially graphic for us since our pastor was with us and he is the person we all look up to when we are not sure what to do. This is my personal battle as well because, hard as I try not to, I still sometimes put him on a pedestal and look up to him instead of the One I should look up to.

The pastor does not have all the answers. He can get lost too. The one in front of the team with a lamp is the one we should follow. The One who is the Light is the One we should look for.


This has been my thing for the couple past years, I guess – looking for good things even when everything seems chaotic and clearly wrong.

In this situation, I was determined to enjoy my time with God – whether it went as planned or not.

To be honest, I suspect that this is how He planned it. It was a great example of what do we do when something goes not as we planned. The first impulse is to panic and panic blinds us. It looms over us like a big black boulder that blocks the light out and we run headfirst into that boulder, and then sink to the ground, helpless.

And it was a lesson to learn how to trust Him more than our own instincts. Besides, the magnificently lit sky was still there, the stars were bright, I even spotted a meteor as it swooped across the heavens, and most importantly, God was still there, waiting for His date with me.

What was one lesson that you have learned recently that deeply impacted you?

  • Zee: I wanted to comment on two things you wrote about…things I agree wholeheartedly with. The first one: Never assume. Assumption is asking for trouble. I hate to even think how many times I assumed something and it was wrong and I paid dearly for it. The second is Follow the Rules. We just "assume" that all rules are bad. But perhaps we need to consider that some rules are good for us-they are there for our good. Following religious rules legalistically is, of course, not good but following God's rules can only work out for our best. My lesson: hold things loosely. Not always will things go as planned. Go with the flow and allow God to do His thing.
    My recent post Worry-Free Week

    • hehe, i've read this first thing in the morning and my eyesight was obviously not clear 'nuff at first. i've read "things I disagree wholeheartedly with" and thought "wow, what did i write that Bill wholeheartedly disagrees with me?"… i've read the phrase a couple more times and saw that it was "agree," not "disagree" 🙂 *whew!*

      yep. we got used to the fact that rules are mostly used to control us as kids and therefore when we grow up we don't want to deal with them at all. however, there is a reason why our parents tell us not to play with the fire or not stick our hands into the outlets.

      thanks for feedback, Bill! 🙂
      My recent post [leaders' bootcamp: epic fail… or not? part 2]

      • Glad your eyesight cleared up Zee! I would hate to have the wrath of Zee coming down on me. 😀 Hope you have a great day.
        My recent post Worry-Free Week

        • haha, well, i was afraid of the same – that i wrote something that dumb that you decided to say that you completely disagree.

          i did have a great day. witnessed a wonderful and awesome display of cloud formations. i have never in my life seen such storm clouds forming so fast and furious. neither did most of my colleagues. from 15th floor, we had an awesome view of the city… ah, i love thunderstorms!

  • Love both of these posts. Thank you for sharing the experience!

    My lesson: God will meet you right where you are (even when you go down the wrong path). Watch for Him. Once He shows up, follow Him relentlessly.
    My recent post Called to Sacrifice

    • amen! that's a good lesson to learn, Dusty, and indeed, He was there with us, even though we went the wrong way. thanks for stopping by.

  • Glad you are feeling better kiddo.

    I think the biggest lesson that I am learning was Bill's #3, which is go with the flow and allow God to work.
    My recent post Living With Yourself After Watching A Bad Movie

    • amazing how often we manage to stand in God's way…

      allowing God to work – no kiddin'

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